Money conversations can be uncomfortable, but they're essential for a healthy relationship. Financial disagreements are consistently cited as one of the top reasons for relationship stress and even divorce. The good news is that with open communication and teamwork, you can navigate finances together successfully.
Start with Honest Conversations
Share your financial history, including debts, spending habits, and your relationship with money growing up. Understanding each other's financial backgrounds helps you approach differences with empathy rather than judgment.
Create Shared Goals
What do you want your future to look like? Buying a home, traveling, early retirement, children's education? Identifying shared goals gives your financial decisions purpose and helps you work as a team.
Choose a System That Works for You
Some couples combine all finances, others keep everything separate, and many use a hybrid approach. There's no right answer—what matters is that you both feel comfortable and the system supports your goals.
Budget Together
Create a budget that reflects your shared priorities. Include individual 'fun money' that each person can spend without discussion—this prevents resentment and maintains some financial independence.
Regular Money Dates
Schedule monthly check-ins to review your finances together. Celebrate wins, address concerns, and adjust your plan as needed. Keeping the lines of communication open prevents small issues from becoming big problems.
Kemie Onadipe
Marriage & Relationship Counsellor
